The long-term effects of bullying are real. Research findings, regardless of their genesis, are remarkably similar: adults who were victims of bullying are more likely to suffer from depression, relationship problems, substance abuse, stress-related shorter life spans, and suicide; bullies who were also bullied, are susceptible to the same problems as their victims, plus they are more likely to be incarcerated; one the other hand, bullies who were not bullied have a higher risk of anti-social behavior and are likely to continue bullying into adulthood.

Despite the potential long-term aftereffects, those who’ve suffered bullying do not have to be defined by the abuse. Studies show when a child has a trusted advocate, the impact of bullying can be diminished. I know first-hand, having a champion makes all the difference, someone who believes in you, stands up for you, validates you’re worthy of love––deserving of nothing less. Writing CHASING TARZAN, I discovered many vigilant angels: the lovely, lovely Miss Jo; Mr. Holbrook who honored me with my first insult-free nickname; Debbie Moon who was not a friend but left a formidable mark; my brother Tom whose eyes told me it would be okay; my parents who watched as best they could and took in more than I knew; and my New Zealand Mum who saw through me, acknowledged the wounded girl within, and helped me see who I could be, who I already was.

To my readers, know you have the potential to change a child’s trajectory, and to those who have suffered bullying, know this was abuse, and you are a survivor.